Few months back I was working with an organization as an HR Manager in India. Just like many of my batch mates after completing my MBA, I was excited to start my career once again. I come from a humble family in North India and to my delight joined a diverse team in South India. Diverse not only in terms of North and South regions but also religion, cuisine, climate, and gender. On our first day after our orientation and meet-up with other B-school graduates we went for dinner and partying.
In the diverse mix of girls and boys I found myself completely different as I don’t smoke, drink or eat non-veg but this feeling was a regular feeling for me. I think I met some of the best and most memorable people in my life during my MBA. I was accepted by them as I was and yes even that wasn’t easy. I was confident I’ll mingle up with others in few days as I managed before.
Next day we were given our job roles and a very senior leader in the organization asked the group “Who was the most boring person in the party yesterday?” Of course you guessed it right …It was me. I wasn’t sure how to react. My mind was rushing to frame sentences but my facial expressions didn’t support me and I couldn’t utter a word. That was the start to two years of hard work during MBA.
Was it really my fault that I have to face such a situation? Yes with little bit of training my mind I could have handled the situation much better but is it fair for the society to treat anyone this way? Was that leader good enough to ask such a question on our first day at work? Maybe that leader was looking for a bold person who could speak up in front of other people. What about people who are introverts ? Does this mean introverts would have to keep struggling to be visible since it doesn’t come easy to them. They have their own strengths. I was not able to find answers to these questions till now and would like to know if you also faced a similar situation in your office environment?